Dating violence scenario
Stacey doesn't really like her boyfriend Terry anymore, but she doesn't want to break up with him because his parents have a lot of money and he often buys her nice things.
She's even invited to go to Florida with his family over spring break.
She decides to call Adam; he's happy to hear from her, and they chat about why they were upset the night before.Yes, women use sex for "power and control." And a woman who forces a man to have unwanted sex is exerting "power over." What can you do? Too often, men feel a "double shame," the shame that a woman date-rape victim or battered woman feels, and the "man's shame" of not wanting sex or being beaten up by a woman and being mocked or laughed at for it. 1998 Department of Justice report on the National Violence Against Women Survey, 1,510,455 women and 834,732 men are victims of physical violence by an intimate. That includes 2,754 on whom a knife was used, 5,508 threatened with a knife and 11,016 hit with an object. Help for Battered Men Practical suggestions, Hotline numbers, on-line resources. Don't wait until she cuts you open with a kitchen knife. The Centers for Disease Control "cook" the data and ignore their own study on domestic violence to gender-polarize the issue of dating violence, but many studies show that women initiate dating violence about as often as men. Print it out and hand it to a man you think may be battered--your caring opens him up to talking about it. It is important to create spaces, such as school communities, where the behavioral norms are not tolerant of abuse in dating relationships.
The message must be clear that treating people in abusive ways will not be accepted, and policies must enforce this message to keep students safe.
The boy was too humiliated to want to tell anyone about it. It objectifies women as well as men a "hot topic" for feminists. ( concentrates on domestic violence against straight men, gay men, and lesbian women, because few services exist for these groups.