Stop dating someone
In casual relationships, we stop answering text messages or provide short, uninterested answers. I've since realized that sure, I don't like hurting people, but what's really happening is that I don't like guilt and anxiety and conflict, so I ignore or avoid the "problem" to gain the illusion that "it's" (they've) gone away And the reality is that they might go away, but they do so wondering what the heck just happened (and sometimes send a string of angry text messages). So before I offer some tips on breaking up with someone, I want to qualify this. I've had my heart smashed to bits twice, and I'm pretty sure I've smashed a couple.I've been on the receiving end of a casual relationship ending over text message, Facebook Chat, the "phase-out," and the "I'm gonna drink few glasses of wine while you tell me you're seeing someone more seriously now and we can no longer talk."I get it.
Don't try to blame it on something else or you'll just extend the process.But if either of you is eager to avoid dead-end relationships and to find a lifelong partner, an early decision about whether to “continue the pursuit” becomes far more important.A decision to stop dating someone is hard to make, but it should be made as early as possible.Breaking someone's heart (or wounding it, if you're in a more casual relationship) really effing sucks.
We always focus on how to heal a broken heart after being dumped, but we never acknowledge how crappy it is to be the heartbreaker.For example, don't say "I'm not emotionally available" or "You deserve better." Those statement might be true, but they're likely not the reason you want to end things.